7+ years of my life in very graphic detail. Dating | sex | mental health | life blog. Frequently #NSFW 18+
Hi, hello, hey. How are you doing? I went through my old Dropbox account today and I had to delete a whole bunch of photos because I was going to lose them anyway if I didn’t upgrade my account. I went through them and I deleted them, one by one, but let me tell you something … Heartstrings. Were. Tugged. I’m currently going through a folder titled “Summer 2014″. I’m starting to wish I hadn’t looked. The summer of Jock and I. The summer of the big storms, in more ways…
Read MoreGuest post by @SarahCantSmell This is an essay about my experience with my mother’s alcoholism. If reading about addiction is a trigger for you, then you may want to stop here. I also want to say before I get started, that both before and after getting sober, my mom is/was one of the best people I know. She is one of the hardest working, most selfless, most generous people I have ever met. So much of my work ethic, my passion for volunteering and for supporting good causes, and my…
Read MoreWhat would you do if someone told you something like: “So-and-so’s girlfriend is a fucking psycho, by the way.” If you knew that someone was dating a ‘psycho’, would you tell them? What if that person were your best friend? You’d totally tell them, right? What if that person was your best friend once but isn’t anymore? Now what d’ya do? Tell them? Tell someone else to tell them? Tell the original psycho-news-spreader to keep their newfound deets to themselves? Update to this: he has a new gf. My sister…
Read MorePeople find my sex and dating blog with the most random terms and phrases and I’ve decided that I should write blogs based on them. Well, where I can and within reason. A few of the terms aren’t even legal (I don’t think) so I’ll probably avoid those. Also, I’m not entirely sure what some of them have to do with my blog, and why they’re directing people to it, but the ones I CAN write about, I WILL. Clever? Or stupid? I guess we’ll find out! The reason…
Read MoreHey, how are you today? I saw a little Twitter debate earlier on, and I really wanted to jump in and get myself involved. I knew, however, that a Twitter spat wouldn’t solve this particular dilemma. Fighting with people in 100 characters or less doesn’t educate them, or show them another side of the debate. All it does is make those with a certain opinion stand even more firmly in their ways and shout a bit louder. I want what I have to say to make an impact. I’m a…
Read MoreContent Warning: Discussing suicide. Yep, you did read that right. A man who I’d never met – some random dude on the internet – told me to kill myself. You probably won’t find that funny, but as I sit here with the #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek blog I forgot to post, and also my rebuttal to #13ReasonsWhy, I did find it funny. Perfect timing! I have been feeling SHIT recently. Nothing has been wrong. My relationship has been fine. I’m not lacking in confidence, despite putting on a couple of pounds (and then…
Read MoreSunday just seems to be our day. Whether Bear’s son is around or not, whether he has clients or not, whether I’m working or not, we always seem to find a way to get together and get good n’ frisky. It must be the Holy-day business. Something about Sundays just makes us damn horny. Today was no exception. I’ve already blogged today and that’s why I’m making you wait for this post. I can’t have a two-post day. You’ll get bored of me. But I feel the need to tell…
Read MoreEvery day is an education these days, apparently, and today I learned a brand new term in the world of dating and sex. Have you heard of stealthing? Don’t worry if you haven’t heard of it because I hadn’t either, but it’s time to sit up and pay attention. Take notice. Because if you don’t know what stealthing is, you can’t protect yourself against it. And trust me when I tell you that you definitely need to protect yourself against this one. Let me set the scene – you’re…
Read MoreDo you ever look at men that you dated before and think to yourself, why? Like, honestly … why? Why, oh why? Okay, enough of the why’s now. But seriously though, why? What was going through my mind when I thought some of those dudes in my past were a good idea? Some of them weren’t bad looking at the time, obviously, and a couple have just gone a bit downhill with age. But some of them … Some of them never had any hope. I genuinely don’t understand the…
Read MoreJoint Facebook accounts. Let’s just talk about those for a second, shall we? I seem to find that more and more couples are opting for a joint social media presence these days but I’m having a hard time coming up with reasons why someone would think this was a good idea. I can think of a hundred and one reasons why it would be a bad idea, though. Let’s start with some of those. There was that one couple I commented on, on Twitter a while back. From the Insta-rants,…
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