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The [Fri]end.

July 17, 2019September 13, 2019 notsosexinthecity

This isn’t the blog post I was going to post today. I was having an awesome day, being super-productive, getting shit done, formatting all those other posts I’ve got stashed away … and then BOOM. A cheeky little message to make me cry. Awesome. To be honest, I don’t even know why it made me start crying. Fucking outrage than anything else, I think, because I was expecting the scenario at some point. I actually thought it might have happened by now, and there were times when I thought about…

Now You’re Gone

December 9, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity

CONTENT WARNING: DISCUSSING MISCARRIAGE For some bizarre reason, I found myself writing about an Iranian woman called Aylar Lie (don’t ask) and during my research of the woman, I realised she was the same woman who’d appeared in a number of Basshunter music videos. (She was apparently banned from entering Iran because of a porn career, but we’ll just leave that where it is because it’s ridiculous how women are still so heavily restricted.) Instantly, my mind was drawn back to a time when Now You’re Gone was playing…

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“Summer 2014”

May 30, 2017September 28, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Hi, hello, hey. How are you doing? I went through my old Dropbox account today and I had to delete a whole bunch of photos because I was going to lose them anyway if I didn’t upgrade my account. I went through them and I deleted them, one by one, but let me tell you something … Heartstrings. Were. Tugged. I’m currently going through a folder titled “Summer 2014″. I’m starting to wish I hadn’t looked. The summer of Jock and I. The summer of the big storms, in more ways…

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What Would YOU Do?

May 23, 2017September 29, 2019 notsosexinthecity2 Comments

What would you do if someone told you something like: “So-and-so’s girlfriend is a fucking psycho, by the way.” If you knew that someone was dating a ‘psycho’, would you tell them? What if that person were your best friend? You’d totally tell them, right? What if that person was your best friend once but isn’t anymore? Now what d’ya do? Tell them? Tell someone else to tell them? Tell the original psycho-news-spreader to keep their newfound deets to themselves? Update to this: he has a new gf. My sister…

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Friendships …

April 15, 2017October 11, 2019 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

Ladies and gentlemen, this post is not going to be sexy or loved up. It’s not even going to be a nice post. It’s going to be filled with swear words (for those of you who don’t like reading them), and I’ll just throw it here so you know it’s going to coming up > CUNT. There, I said it. I’m probably going to say it a lot. I moved out. I moved out of the house I shared with Bestie, and in with my new fella. You’d think that…

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Where Does the Time Go?

January 29, 2017 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

Do you want to know what’s even more heartbreaking than a breakup? A breakup from your best friend, that’s what. Let me tell you something: that man has broken my heart more than any guy I’ve ever dated. Damn that Bestie. What’s been going on? Well, a fuck load of nothing, that’s what. We don’t talk anymore. We don’t hang out anymore. He comes home from work, feeds the cats, gets dressed and goes right back out again most nights. Some nights he doesn’t come home at all. My position…

Because I Can't Write a Novel Bestie

Dear Bestie’s 20 Year BFF (Who Ruined Our Friendship)

December 2, 2016July 17, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Because I Can’t Write a Novel – Day Two I’ve been writing, editing, and deleting chunks of this post for the last three or four months. I don’t know what I want to say, or why I want to say it, but I clearly need to say something otherwise I wouldn’t have started writing it … In case you’re not up to date with the disastrous ending to the friendship of Bestie and I, you can find it starting here: The Monster Within …, before moving on to this little beauty: Shit…

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Bestie Dates

October 19, 2016May 25, 2017 notsosexinthecity

So … I don’t know if I’m allowed to talk about this, but I want to therefore I’m going to. When everything happened between Bestie and I, he went on Tinder and met this girl. I’m trying to think of a name for her, but we’ll come back to that. It’s not important right now. They’ve been “chatting” for ages, since the beginning of August-ish? They’ve been on two dates together, and she came over one night recently after she’d been out drinking with her pals. Despite all the bashing…

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What’s Your Scary Age?

September 10, 2016December 9, 2016 notsosexinthecity

At what age do you start to really freak out about the fact you haven’t had kids yet? This question is obviously to my single and childless lady friends – those who are looking for love but struggling to find it. I guess that’s most of us then … right? But seriously though … What’s Your Scary Age? My scary age was always 30 up until the point I reached it. I made a pact with Bestie that if neither of us were happily married and babied up by the…

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Everything Has Changed

August 21, 2016December 9, 2016 notsosexinthecity

Following on from my previous post: Shit Storm … Everything has changed. I know I sound overdramatic when I say that but seriously, everything has changed. My whole life. Everything I’ve gotten comfortable with over the last 10-15 years … It’s all changed. And now I’m having the hardest time dealing with it all. Remember when I got drunk and accidentally made out with Bestie, and then instead of dealing with it like a grown-up, I started a fight, was a complete and utter cunt, and stormed off home crying…