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7 Facts About Me (From Bear)

November 15, 2017September 28, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Hey, hey, hey! Guess who’s been a crap blogger again. Yep, that’s right. ME! I’m sorry. I don’t know why I can’t seem to get the posts actually on to my blog. It’s not like I’m not writing them. Well, half-writing them. Anyway, I’ve been nominated (by Rebecca Chase) to share seven facts about myself. I’ve done this kind of post a few times before, but talking about yourself is super fun. I love talking about myself, can’t you tell? Maybe I’ll link to the old fun-fact posts at the…

Bear My Dating Life

I Should Probably Finish That Hand Job

October 13, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Content Warning: This is NOT a sexy story. Contains details of sickness. I don’t talk about sex anymore. Why is that? I don’t know. We are having sex, just in case you’re wondering. Admittedly, we haven’t had the easiest ride of things lately, but there have been some pretty epic sessions scattered in the last few months. The other day wasn’t great. I’d worked until 4 am and Bear stayed awake with me. Well, he tried, he did fall asleep on the couch for a while. But, anyway, we…

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Assessments, Dirty Bowls & Butterless Sandwiches

September 25, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

Hello! I bet you’re all wondering what’s been going on with my life! Or not … I’m gonna tell you anyway. I should probably update you with what’s been going on with Bear’s health stuff to start with. We had an at-home assessment, which added more questions rather than providing answers. I’m not really sure what I expected but we were referred from there — some heart tests, brain tests, blood tests, and some others that I wasn’t sure of. I actually thought the assessment itself went quite well,…

Bear Mental Health My Dating Life

Delivery Day

September 7, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity3 Comments

Let me tell you how today went for me. BS (Bear’s Son) went to school. First day. Woohoo! Six weeks is WAY too long. I like the kid … but jeez. Six. Weeks. Is. Long. Bear went to some work thing. A work thing that ended up being more of a social thing, which I’m a bit pissed off about, I must admit. I got up and put some makeup on. It was the first time in three weeks. I had a bowl of cereal. It’s the first time…

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But That’s Life, Right?

September 5, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecityBorderline Personality Disorder1 Comment

A couple of you lovely lot have sent me messages lately asking if I’m okay as I’ve been a bit … well, missing, I guess? I have, you’re right, and it’s because I don’t really know what to say. I feel so out the loop too, desperately trying to catch up with what everyone else has been up to and failing miserably. I just … don’t know what to say? What I want to say and what I mean are two different things. Because what I mean is nothing…

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Wicked Stepmother

July 13, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecityStep-Parenting1 Comment

Did you know that Ghost came out 27 years ago today? That’s a fucking long time ago, isn’t it? All of a sudden I feel much older. So old. Groan. I’m only 31. I was only three or four years old when that movie came out. What a classic though. I just wanted to start today’s blog post with a fun fact. The rest of this post won’t be as much fun. I was hated today. I’m still hated. Bear’s Son, who I shall call BS for the rest…

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What is Love?

July 11, 2017September 19, 2019 notsosexinthecitylove3 Comments

It’s buying me a coffee and a blueberry muffin with the last few quid you have in your pocket just because you know I’ll really appreciate it for breakfast. It’s buying you a new guitar even though it’s ridiculously expensive and totally out of my price range, just because I know you’ll treasure it forever and tell me it’s the best gift you’ve ever received. It’s putting the kettle on every time I get that text that says, “Honey, I’m on my way home” and spending five minutes furiously…

Bear Mental Health My Dating Life

Opening a Can of Worms

June 30, 2017September 19, 2019 notsosexinthecityBorderline Personality Disorder, Dementia3 Comments

*Long post alert* I have been avoiding putting up blog posts just like my last one for the longest time. I knew it would open a can of worms if I did because then I’d need to talk about other stuff as well. Well, now I think we’re at that place where we might need to talk about the other stuff. Where do I even start? I guess I should start by saying that I’m a little … sensitive to conditions such as dementia and Alzheimers. My Nana died…

Bear Mental Health My Dating Life

How Do I Find My Voice Again?

June 29, 2017September 19, 2019 notsosexinthecityBorderline Personality Disorder2 Comments

Having an argument with a jealous paranoid schizophrenic person with undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder is a bit like having an argument with an angry, hungry bear. I mean, you can try your hardest to fight back, making as much noise as you can and generally making yourself look as big and as scary as possible, but ultimately, you know you are going to die. That bear is going to rip your head off, tear your limbs away from your body, and then devour you from the inside out. My…

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Why Won’t I Let Him Touch Me?

June 25, 2017September 22, 2019 notsosexinthecity5 Comments

My sex drive has entirely changed over the last few years. I probably should have warned you before diving in with something like that. Sorry. But depression, anxiety, and stress has probably had a huge part to play in the whole bonkers libido business, as well as going self-employed, quitting my job, bouncing from one highly inappropriate man to the next, the cervical cancer scare, the bowel cancer scare, and then going through the Brown Eyes saga. I’m not totally devoid of a sex drive these days but something…