Category: Bear

Bear My Dating Life 

What is Love?

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  It’s buying me a coffee and a blueberry muffin with the last few quid you have in your pocket just because you know I’ll really appreciate it for breakfast. It’s buying you a new guitar even though it’s ridiculously expensive and totally out of my price range, just because I know you’ll treasure it forever and tell me it’s the best gift you’ve ever received. It’s putting the kettle on every time I get that text that says, “Honey, I’m on my way home” and spending five minutes furiously…

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Bear Mental Health My Dating Life 

Opening a Can of Worms

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*Long post alert*    I have been avoiding putting up blog posts just like my last one for the longest time. I knew it would open a can of worms if I did because then I’d need to talk about other stuff as well. Well, now I think we’re at that place where we might need to talk about the other stuff. Where do I even start? I guess I should start by saying that I’m a little … sensitive to conditions such as dementia and Alzheimers. My Nana died…

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Bear Mental Health My Dating Life 

How Do I Find My Voice Again?

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  Having an argument with a jealous paranoid schizophrenic person with undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder is a bit like having an argument with an angry, hungry bear. I mean, you can try your hardest to fight back, making as much noise as you can and generally making yourself look as big and as scary as possible, but ultimately, you know you are going to die. That bear is going to rip your head off, tear your limbs away from your body, and then devour you from the inside out. My…

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Bear Mental Health My Dating Life NSFW / Sex True Tales 

Why Won’t I Let Him Touch Me?

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  My sex drive has entirely changed over the last few years. I probably should have warned you before diving in with something like that. Sorry. But depression, anxiety, and stress has probably had a huge part to play in the whole bonkers libido business, as well as going self-employed, quitting my job, bouncing from one highly inappropriate man to the next, the cervical cancer scare, the bowel cancer scare, and then going through the Brown Eyes saga. I’m not totally devoid of a sex drive these days but something…

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Bear Me & My Opinions My Dating Life 

What Do I Want in a Man? The Re-Hash

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*Long post alert*   So, I’ve been going #BacktotheBeginning on Twitter, sharing all the old posts right from the beginning again. The name gives it away really. One of my recent finds was this little beauty from July 2012 > What Do I Want in a Man? I had a read through it, laughing to myself, mostly because of the poor writing quality but also because I was a funny fucker. It’s funny how things change too. Some of the things I wanted back then are still important now, of…

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Bear Dating Advice Jock My Dating Life 

One Night With My Ex …

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  In case you hadn’t guessed from the title, I’ve been watching One Night With My Ex. In fact, I’m watching it right now. I’m cringing and laughing and wondering … could I sit through one night with my ex? Which ex would I choose? And what would I really want to know? Brown Eyes – I don’t really know if I have anything to say to that man. Or if he has anything to say to me that I would want to listen to? You can’t argue with stupid,…

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Bear My Dating Life 

What’s Goin’ On?

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  Oh my goodness, things have been really depressing on here lately, haven’t they? I’ve been so nostalgic and miserable. I should probably turn that around. I’ll start losing followers if I don’t buck my ideas up soon. (Please don’t leave, I love you all!) I seem to have a hard time knowing what to talk about these days. I listed a few of the reasons why on Instagram, but the biggest reason is that I’m always so concerned about being politically incorrect or upsetting someone. I’m always offending someone.…

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Bear Bestie Jock My Dating Life 

“Summer 2014”

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Hi, hello, hey. How are you doing? I went through my old Dropbox account today and I had to delete a whole bunch of photos because I was going to lose them anyway if I didn’t upgrade my account. I went through them and I deleted them, one by one, but let me tell you something … Heartstrings. Were. Tugged. I’m currently going through a folder titled “Summer 2014″. I’m starting to wish I hadn’t looked. The summer of Jock and I. The summer of the big storms, in more ways…

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Bear My Dating Life NSFW / Sex True Tales 

I Just Don’t Know What It Is about Sundays #NSFW

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Sunday just seems to be our day. Whether Bear’s son is around or not, whether he has clients or not, whether I’m working or not, we always seem to find a way to get together and get good n’ frisky. It must be the Holy-day business. Something about Sundays just makes us damn horny. Today was no exception. I’ve already blogged today and that’s why I’m making you wait for this post. I can’t have a two-post day. You’ll get bored of me. But I feel the need to tell…

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Bear Brown Eyes Dating Advice My Dating Life 

Practice Makes Perfect (But Only If You Learn From Your Mistakes)

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Do you ever look at men that you dated before and think to yourself, why? Like, honestly … why? Why, oh why? Okay, enough of the why’s now. But seriously though, why? What was going through my mind when I thought some of those dudes in my past were a good idea? Some of them weren’t bad looking at the time, obviously, and a couple have just gone a bit downhill with age. But some of them … Some of them never had any hope. I genuinely don’t understand the…

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