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Act A: The Photograph

November 20, 2019September 17, 2024 notsosexinthecityBad Drunk Decisions, Booty Call, confidence, Ex-Purge, First-Time Sex, Firsts, friends with benefits, Moving On, Reflection, Secret Relationship, Sexual Chemistry, single

“Do you remember that photo?” Of course she did. She remembered it the very second the question started to fall from his mouth, just as she did every time he mentioned it. It’s the photo they don’t show anyone. The one they both love, but can’t post on social media. It’s a really insignificant photo when you just glance at it, a couple of friends at a table in a club, casually enjoying a drink. And it is just that: a casual, insignificant photo of two friends and work…

I Wore The Dress.

March 3, 2014 notsosexinthecityconfidence, girl, girl stuff, girls, life, love, lust, musings, self esteem, Sex, women

You may remember that I recently mentioned a dress that I had bought to attend an engagement party with the Bestie. Well, I wore the dress at the party. It had the desired effect. Every guy that saw me did a double take. The guys that I had known for years but hadn’t seen in a long time couldn’t believe it was me. You should have seen my transformation. I used to be a chubby, size 16, 5 ft 5 busty blonde. Well, I’d say a size 14 really but…

I Bought a Dress.

February 27, 2014 notsosexinthecityconfidence, life, love, lust, musings, relationship, relationships, self esteem, Sex, The Dating Game, thinspiration, weight loss

So guys and girls, I’ve bought this dress. The Bestie I’ve Never Had a Dalliance With and I are going to a party Saturday night. We are heading out to celebrate the engagement of two of our friends. It’s a pretty smart affair; Bestie has bought a new pair of shoes, trousers and a tie for the affair. I bought a new dress. I need to talk about this dress. I don’t know why this dress has affected me quite so much but I’m pretty sure this is my “coming…

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Well That’s Never Happened Before: Date 7

July 15, 2013March 19, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, confidence, dating, Dicks Dicks Dicks, Erectile Dysfunction, falling in love, Firsts, Getting the Ick, Impotence, self esteem

Jock and I have had a grand total of four sleepovers. For two of them, I was on my period and we didn’t get to fuck. We played around and did lots of other playful stuff, but not full PIV [penis-in-vagina] sex. On the other two occasions, we did fuck. And during those two times, I noticed something: he doesn’t always spring up on-demand … if you get my drift. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not something that’s caused us problems up until this point, but I have noticed it,…

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Impending Boom

May 11, 2013March 11, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Body Image, Breakups, confidence, depression, Fighting, Getting the Ick, long distance relationship, self esteem, self-harm, Soldiers

Something’s wrong. I don’t know what it is, but something is definitely wrong. I feel out of sorts. Not quite right. Irritated and restless. It’s driving me potty. I’ve thought a lot about self-harming recently, but I’ve not actually done it. Not in a grab-the-razor-and-cut way, anyway. But a few mornings ago, when my hair wouldn’t go right, I scratched the tops of my arms so hard that I drew blood. I didn’t mean to, it’s just a … thing. Almost like I don’t know I’m doing it until after…

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Tell Me What You See, When You Look at Me

February 25, 2013March 5, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Body Image, confidence, depression, domestic abuse, Reflection, self esteem, self-harm, Weight

I found myself watching some TV show about women and the way they see their bodies, and it got me to thinking. How do you feel about your body? Are you happy with it? Are there things that you’d like to change? How far would you go to change them? It’s funny, the relationship we have with our bodies, isn’t it? We’re stuck with them until the day we die but still, something about them still drives us to despair. I have the worst view of me/my body. I’ve been…

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10 Things I Vow to Stop Doing in 2013

January 1, 2013February 4, 2020 notsosexinthecityconfidence, Ex-Purge, marriage, New Year's Resolutions, self esteem, Self Love

I know I said that I wasn’t going to make New Year’s Resolutions this year, but I’m changing my mind already. Ish. Rather than making all these silly resolutions that I’m no doubt going to bail on within a few days or weeks, I’ve decided to create a slightly more long-term strategy than that, to get my life back on track. I’ve come up with a few things that I think are ‘flaws’ of mine, that I should work on to make better. 1 – I VOW TO STOP FALLING…