What’s the obsession with anal sex lately? Or just generally? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate it. I’ll order anal from time to time if it’s on the menu, but to be honest, I don’t really get all that much from anal play/sex. It’s not something that I’d actively seek out, and it certainly wouldn’t be my first choice of filthy things to do.
I kinda like it because it is literally filthy. Taboo. Dirty. It makes me feel dirty in all the good ways and the pain factor ticks my pain-pleasure boxes. It doesn’t actually do anything for me, though. I can’t come from anal unless there’s direct clitoral stimulation at the same time, and it’s also uncomfortable occasionally… oh, and sometimes messy.
Early anal
Guy is a little obsessed with anal sex, and it’s getting on my nerves a bit. I feel like I’ve made a whopper of a mistake by introducing it into our sex life so soon – within weeks of dating, rather than “saving” it for special occasions, like I usually would. But guy and I, we’d been making out and fooling around, smoking a bit and generally gettin’ frisky … it just kinda happened.
And then it just kinda happened again.
And then again.
And now I’m kinda wishing I hadn’t done it already, because it feels like I’ve gotta do it every time he asks for it… because “why not?”
Previous/other men have been just as enthralled by the idea of putting it in my ass, although they’ve not been as overzealous as this one.
The Lapdog, for example, was a huge fan of anal.
Big Love enjoyed it from time to time, but he didn’t mind if I didn’t want to … and he also didn’t mind when I suggested getting experimental and popping things in his ass to see how they’d feel.
The Ex-Husband was firmly against the idea of me touching his ass but still pushed for me to let him fuck mine whenever the mood took him.
Guy isn’t enthralled with the idea of my touching his butt, either.
But… why?
What’s the deal with anal sex? Why is it so one-sided, too? Why is it perfectly okay for a man to ram his cock up my ass, but it’s not okay/too weird/not cool for me to slide a finger or toy in? I don’t know if I want that, but men tend to say no when I bring it up to them. I mean, everyone likes and hates whatever they like and hate, but what’s good for the goose is good for the gander, right? If I’m happy to try their kinks (or put their dicks in my ass even when I’m not the biggest fan,) then why can’t they afford me the same luxury?
Where’s the equality?
And why is everyone so obsessed with putting it in my butt? What’s so good about it? It’s an exit, so why is it so sought after? Does it feel different? Better? Or is it just the filth factor?
Anal sex: what’s the deal?
Answers below, please!
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Men like it for the same reasons you mentioned. It’s taboo, it’s dirty, and most of the other girls WON’T let us do it. Men are homo-phobic because they do not want something shoved up THEIR behinds. I think most men would be o.k. with homosexuality if they were guaranteed to be the TOP. (and there wasn’t that ridiculous passage in that ridiculous book.)
Men know exactly what the backdoor is used for and most understand if you go treading in those waters to expect to get a bit dirty. It’s only the immature ones who can’t handle it and those are the ones you want to keep out of there anyways. I tried it once. It was ordered ahead of time (the best dishes should be, IMO). She didn’t want to use lube just natural lubrication. She said it was intense. We showered together afterwards to stay clean (and that was fun in it’s own right.) And only just recently have we talked about revisiting that little scenario…but only if we had another playmate to fill her up.
Thanks for the insight! I guess my guy must be somewhat mature to not have said something about the turd on leg situation hahaha! Either that or he genuinely thought it was chocolate 😉