Sex Tips 

The Smart & Safe Guide to Sending Nudes (22 Tips)

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There comes a point in many a relationship where the heat turns up and, well, the chat gets a little flirty. They might start talking about sending nudes… but you’re not really sure what that means or what to do about it. Thankfully, ya girl (that’s me) is here to explain everything, including the law, how to send nudes as safely as possible, and what obliging that request really could mean for your future. Are you ready? Sitting comfortably? Let’s begin… Send Nudes: What Does It Mean? I know this…

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True Tales 

Re-Virginity

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After five years of very much unwanted celibacy, it almost feels like I’m re-losing my virginity whenever I ponder the prospect of having sex again. I’m going to call it my re-virginity. I mean, I know it’s not losing my virginity again, because I am the absolute opposite of a virgin, but the nerves, anxieties, questions, and anticipation are all the same. The thought of standing in front of another person and taking my clothes off, letting them see everything about me, fills me with a sense of panic. My…

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Life 

I Was Bullied Because …

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I came across something on Twitter, started tapping out a note so I could tweet about it later, and then couldn’t stop tapping … so I did the sensible thing and turned it into a blog post!  Source: this tweet from @aquabeings I was bullied because … ▪️ I got an A in my exam. ▪️ I got a C in my exam. ▪️ I didn’t have a Morgan De Toi schoolbag. ▪️ I did have a “lame” Walkers Ready Salted rucksack that my mum and dad got free with a 32-box. ▪️ I…

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When I Was 20…

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“Your 20-year-old pic is so cute,” I told him. “I have a pic of you from when you were 20, you know. I found it when I moved a little while back,” he replied. “You do? How? I don’t even have that many pics from when I was 20,” I laughed. “I have a few pics of you from back then, but I doubt many of them are social media-suitable?” he laughed, sending over the first one.   It was my goth phase, and the time I made so much…

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Today I Miss …

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It suddenly struck me today just how much I missed my vibrators. Well, one specifically: the Rampant Rabbit. I’ve talked about the toy a lot before, and I’ll probably talk about it a lot more in the future even though there are new toys to tell you about, but my Rampant Rabbit is the toy I’m missing the most right now. I’m missing it so fucking much. I’ve wanked a lot during lockdown, but they’ve been secret, silent, stolen wanks in the shower, or really quietly at my desk when…

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Hot Right Now [Previously Unseen]

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Fun fact about this post: It’s been sat in my drafts for over two years. I didn’t know whether or not I wanted to publish something that featured a Class A drug so heavily and positively. But we’re all adults here, right? I did it, lived it, wrote about it … now I’m sharing it. Consider this your second content warning: this post goes into great detail about an NSFW night on MDMA (ecstasy), talking about it in a positive way. As a side note: I’ve been clean from all…

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Wandering Hands

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I have a question: If my boyfriend is that disinterested in sex that we’re not having any of it [again], how come I keep waking up in the middle of the night with his hands down my pants?  Last night, for example. This morning, actually. 4:38 am, according to the clock. I found myself risen from my slumber, still in the dark, roused by something that was nice and annoying all at once. It took me a few moments to work out what it was: Bear’s hands. Bear’s hands rubbing…

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