domestic abuse - NotSoSexintheCity

Emotional Hoarding: The Hubby’s Letter

January 24, 2014December 5, 2016 notsosexinthecityabuse, divorce, domestic abuse, ex, life, love, marriage, musings, relationship, relationships, Sex, The Dating Game, violence4 Comments

In a previous post (The Nation of (Emotional) Hoarders), I talk about the little things that we keep from past lovers – all those love letters and mementos of the romantic and adorable times you had together. I mentioned a letter that my Hubby had sent me, apologising for punching me in the face. I have decided to publish that letter. Brave? Or stupid? I kept the letter for all this time in case our divorce got messy. The divorce we still haven’t gotten started on yet. Eye roll. Anyway, this is…

Big Love Dating Life The Fireman The Hubby

Tell Me What You See, When You Look at Me

February 25, 2013March 5, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Body Image, confidence, depression, domestic abuse, Reflection, self esteem, self-harm, Weight

I found myself watching some TV show about women and the way they see their bodies, and it got me to thinking. How do you feel about your body? Are you happy with it? Are there things that you’d like to change? How far would you go to change them? It’s funny, the relationship we have with our bodies, isn’t it? We’re stuck with them until the day we die but still, something about them still drives us to despair. I have the worst view of me/my body. I’ve been…

Big Love Dating The Hubby

When Was Your First Time … ? (Part Three: Great Love)

August 18, 2012January 22, 2020 notsosexinthecitycheating, Controlling, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Financial Control, Firsts, Great Love, marriage

I’m carrying on with my list of firsts again. (Soz if you’re bored.) Just in case you missed them, I discussed everything from kissing to anal and sexual awakenings in Part One, and falling in love for the first time (twice) in Part Two. In this one – Part Three – I want to talk about my first great love … MY FIRST GREAT LOVE There are definitely differences between your first love and your first GREAT love. “Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love,” as Carrie says in…