Let’s talk about Big Dick Energy, also known as BDE, today, shall we? You might’ve seen the term floating about as you make your way around the internet, or if you’re lucky, someone might tell you that you have some BDE of your own. Either way, I’m going to talk you through what it means, what you should do with it, and how to use it to your advantage.
Are you ready? If so, I shall begin.
The History of Big Dick Energy
In order to understand Big Dick Energy, also known by the abbreviation BDE, we must first go back to when the dating slang term started. Now, there is a bit of a debate on how the term first came about, but it is mostly attributed to Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande, back in 2018, and a comment that she made about him having a “ten-inch” whopper.
Someone on Twitter made a comment that said, Pete Davidson exuded, essentially, big dick energy. And you know what happens when someone says something groundbreaking on Twitter; it goes viral in a heartbeat, and everyone ends up talking about it.
The term became so iconic that it now has its own Wikipedia page; made its way to the BBC; has inspired several songs; and even went viral for a second time, in 2022, when Greta Thunberg used the opposite (Small Dick Energy) to describe Andrew Tate. (LOLZ)
What Does Big Dick Energy Mean?
Big Dick Energy means, quite simply, having an air of confidence about you, that isn’t forced or faked, nor is it loud. It’s a quiet confidence – the kind of confidence a man would have when he knows that he has a whopper of a dick, but doesn’t feel the need to shout about it from the rooftops. The big dick speaks for itself.
Urban Dictionary states:
You can have BDE whether you’re male, female, non-binary, or anywhere else on that spectrum; the dick itself is mostly theoretical. It has nothing to do with actual penis size. You could have the smallest dick in the world, or even no dick at all, and still exude some heavy Big Dick Energy.
Grazia says:
“Consider it a vibe rather than a measurement.”
Rihanna, Serena Williams, and Cate Blanchett are all potential contenders for feminine Big Dick Energy. Some people think that Timothée Chalamet serves up a big dose of BDE, and especially now that he’s dating Kylie Jenner. It’s quite obvious that Pete Davidson is on the BDE list, and many think that Anthony Bourdain belonged on it, too. (May he RIP.) Other contenders include the delicious Tom Hardy, the delightful Idris Elba, and even Harry Styles.
For me, Big Dick Energy is someone that exudes the following personality traits/appearance:
- Quiet, but not shy
- Intelligent
- Either tall and slender in build, or
- Shorter, stocky, a little overweight
- The tiniest, most perfect hint of arrogance…
- Without being cocky
- Not flash with cash
- Little to no social media presence
- Respect towards women
- Kind to waiters/customer service staff/etc.
- Not obsessed with appearance
- Witty and funny…
- But not in a way that demeans others
- Compassionate
- Does the right amount of self-deprecation
- Medium-ugly
- Drives a ‘normal person’ car
The Lapdog belongs on my BDE list, as does The Fireman, The Chef, and My Mr. Grey. You know, in case you cared.
Is a Big Dick the Same As Big Dick Energy?
Nope, big dicks and Big Dick Energy are most definitely not the same thing.
Men with big dicks, that don’t have BDE, often need to tell the world just how big their penises are. And they love to say it like, “Yo, I’ve got a 10-inch dick, and I know how to use it.”
I bet you don’t.
Men with big dicks, that do have BDE, however, have absolutely no need to tell you how much they’re packing down there. They’ll sidetrack the question when you ask, and you’ll need to basically beg them to get a tape measure out. (In my experience, anyway.)
As I’ve said already, the smallest dicks can have the biggest BDE.
If you’re really lucky, you’ll find a big dick with BDE and live happily ever after. Oh, the dream.
What Is the Opposite of Big Dick Energy?
The opposite of BDE is SDE or LDE: Small Dick Energy/Little Dick Energy.
Small Dick Energy exudes from the guys that drive expensive, fancy sports cars, just like Andrew Tate. He exudes the smallest SDE I’ve ever seen in my life, and those vehicles are exactly the proverbial penis extension that we mock them to be. SDE guys are also horrible little bastards that think women are beneath them. They tell sexist or misogynistic jokes, hoot and holler to everyone about how much of an “Alpha Male” they are, and can’t take criticism for shit.
Try-harders? Yep, SDE.
Braggers? SDE all the way.
Seeks validation from a thousand different women on the socials? SDE, baby.
Toxic men? Smallest small dick energy of them alllll.
Big Dick Energy is low-key, relaxed, and absolutely not in the market to overcompensate anywhere.
Big Dick Energy: A Big Conclusion
So, what have we learned today? We’ve learned that men who shout about their penis size do not have Big Dick Energy, and the same probably applies to assholes, porn addicts, men who follow a zillion chicks on the socials, and anyone who thinks that women belong in the kitchen.
Big Dick Energy is quiet stuff, non-bragging stuff, humble stuff. It’s kind, intelligent, witty and compassionate. It has some subtlety about it. Not in your face, you know?
And if you think you have it, you probably don’t.
To finish, I’d like to present you with this final quote, from The Big Dick Guide, which I kinda love:
“The use of big dick energy isn’t limited to men — Beyoncé exudes more calm confidence than every male on the planet put together, and I’m fairly certain she lacks a penis of her own.”
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