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Out in the Cold

December 3, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Content Warning: Discussing death. I’ve never been very good with death. I’ve never been very good at coping with grown-ass men crying either. So, when I plodded into the living room this morning to see Bear crying on the sofa because his friend had died, you can imagine the shit show. He cried. I cried. There was snot everywhere. I have the ugliest cry-face ever, but Bear’s cry-face is soul-destroying. It broke my heart. You could literally hear it crack, right down the middle. His friend died. Bear hadn’t…

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The Importance of Love Letters

December 3, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Every morning, when Bear leaves to do whatever he needs to do for the day, he leaves me a ‘love letter’. Usually scribbled on the back of a late-payment reminder or on an envelope for some bill he hasn’t even opened yet. Without fail, he does it. It’s become a ‘thing’ now. It’s one of those things that I don’t think I could live without now. Okay, so that’s probably a little dramatic, but you know what I mean — that would be the thing I missed so much…

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Sexual Hoop-Jumping

November 30, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity2 Comments

How many of you would demand that a partner get him or herself sexually checked out before you agreed to hop in the sack with them? I should do a twitter poll on this, you know. It would be super interesting to see the results. Because I do that. Exactly that. I’ve done it a few times. I DEMAND that a partner gets themselves sexually checked out before I’ll agree to “do bits”. Too much? I don’t think so. And I’m about to tell you why. Some of you will…

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A Case of Mistaken Notifications

November 22, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity2 Comments

Do you have any idea how soul-destroying it is to be accused of cheating when it’s the furthest thing from your mind? I mean, c’mon, I’m in my thirties now. Fucking around and being a dick might have been okay when I was in my twenties, without responsibilities, learning about who I was and what I was going to do with my life. But, when you’re a grown-ass woman like I am, cheating is just desperate and pathetic. There is NO need for it. It’s trashy. There, I said…

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7 Facts About Me (From Bear)

November 15, 2017September 28, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Hey, hey, hey! Guess who’s been a crap blogger again. Yep, that’s right. ME! I’m sorry. I don’t know why I can’t seem to get the posts actually on to my blog. It’s not like I’m not writing them. Well, half-writing them. Anyway, I’ve been nominated (by Rebecca Chase) to share seven facts about myself. I’ve done this kind of post a few times before, but talking about yourself is super fun. I love talking about myself, can’t you tell? Maybe I’ll link to the old fun-fact posts at the…

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21 Irrational Things That Piss Me Off

October 21, 2017September 16, 2019 notsosexinthecity4 Comments

There are little things in life that annoy me so much it makes me want to get violent with people. That’s not socially acceptable, unfortunately, so I started writing them down instead. I found myself with a little long list on my phone, so I figured I’d pop them into a blog post for you. Listen, I know I’m nuts. Some of this stuff is totally nuts. That’s why I called this blog post “21 Irrational Things That Piss Me Off’. Irrational — the clue is in the title. Anyway,…

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#MeToo

October 19, 2017September 16, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Content Warning: Discussing sexual assault / non-consent. – 1 – When I was 16 years old, I went to a house party with my boyfriend at the time. We’d had a few drinks, chatted with friends, danced a bit, and eventually went up to a bedroom to have some “alone time” — hardcore making out on a bed that wasn’t ours, surrounded by a sea of other people’s coats, bags, empty beer bottles, and other personal belongings. It started out happily enough — lots of kissing, hands all over,…

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I Should Probably Finish That Hand Job

October 13, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Content Warning: This is NOT a sexy story. Contains details of sickness. I don’t talk about sex anymore. Why is that? I don’t know. We are having sex, just in case you’re wondering. Admittedly, we haven’t had the easiest ride of things lately, but there have been some pretty epic sessions scattered in the last few months. The other day wasn’t great. I’d worked until 4 am and Bear stayed awake with me. Well, he tried, he did fall asleep on the couch for a while. But, anyway, we…

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Friends, Friends, Friends

October 8, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

Do you remember the friend I had who ignored my messages and talked about herself or her situation the entire time? Well, things came to a head as far as that situation was concerned, and I felt it was the time to talk about friendship. They’re funny, aren’t they? Friends? Sometimes they’re there for you through thick and thin, your BFF forevs. The next thing you know, they’re gone. Poof. Vanished. You won’t even know what happened. They could be your ride or die through the most ridiculous situations in…

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Assessments, Dirty Bowls & Butterless Sandwiches

September 25, 2017September 18, 2019 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

Hello! I bet you’re all wondering what’s been going on with my life! Or not … I’m gonna tell you anyway. I should probably update you with what’s been going on with Bear’s health stuff to start with. We had an at-home assessment, which added more questions rather than providing answers. I’m not really sure what I expected but we were referred from there — some heart tests, brain tests, blood tests, and some others that I wasn’t sure of. I actually thought the assessment itself went quite well,…