Dating 

Online & Accidental (The Story of the 10 Inch Dick)

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Content Warning: Discusses unsolicited dick pics & brief mention of sexual assault.  The other night I received the biggest cock shot I’d ever received in my life. Bizarrely, it wasn’t sent to me via a social media account associated with this blog. It was via a social media account associated with an entirely different website I manage. A website that is 100% unrelated to sex, dating, relationships, any of it. I received a message – a question related to the website. He was asking for advice. An hour later, when…

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Bear 

How Do I Find My Voice Again?

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Having an argument with a jealous paranoid schizophrenic person with undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder is a bit like having an argument with an angry, hungry bear. I mean, you can try your hardest to fight back, making as much noise as you can and generally making yourself look as big and as scary as possible, but ultimately, you know you are going to die. That bear is going to rip your head off, tear your limbs away from your body, and then devour you from the inside out. My angry…

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Bear Mental Health 

Why Won’t I Let Him Touch Me?

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My sex drive has entirely changed over the last few years. I probably should have warned you before diving in with something like that. Sorry. But depression, anxiety, and stress has probably had a huge part to play in the whole bonkers libido business, as well as going self-employed, quitting my job, bouncing from one highly inappropriate man to the next, the cervical cancer scare, the bowel cancer scare, and then going through the Brown Eyes saga. I’m not totally devoid of a sex drive these days but something has…

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Guest Posts 

Recovery and Reflections: A Daughter’s Story of Her Mother’s Alcoholism [Guest Post]

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Guest post by @SarahCantSmell This is an essay about my experience with my mother’s alcoholism. If reading about addiction is a trigger for you, then you may want to stop here. I also want to say before I get started, that both before and after getting sober, my mom is/was one of the best people I know. She is one of the hardest working, most selfless, most generous people I have ever met. So much of my work ethic, my passion for volunteering and for supporting good causes, and my…

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Bestie Opinions 

What Would YOU Do?

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What would you do if someone told you something like: “So-and-so’s girlfriend is a fucking psycho, by the way.”  If you knew that someone was dating a ‘psycho’, would you tell them? What if that person were your best friend? You’d totally tell them, right? What if that person was your best friend once but isn’t anymore? Now what d’ya do? Tell them? Tell someone else to tell them? Tell the original psycho-news-spreader to keep their newfound deets to themselves? Update to this: he has a new gf. My sister…

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Bear 

Misinterpretation

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It’s funny, the little things that get misinterpreted in a relationship. A hastily scribbled note, for example, or a text message from someone who wants to send you samples of stuff to try and review. Both of these things have wreaked havoc in my relationship over the last few days and I feel it’s about time I talked about it. We lost the Apple TV remote. That’s how it all started. In fact, that’s not how it all started. It all started when some guy got in touch to send…

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Bear True Sex Stories 

Sunday Funday

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We’d unexpectedly found ourselves alone, left twiddling our thumbs, staring at each other from opposite ends of a dining room table. There was something about him today. I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was, but it was certainly distracting. I was distracted. Maybe there was something about me? Either way, I couldn’t help but think that he looked like the hottest thing I’d ever seen. Hot as fuck. Hotter than that, in fact. Do you ever have those days when you just look at your significant other…

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Bear 

How Long Is The Honeymoon Stage Meant to Last Anyway?

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There comes a point in every new relationship, I think, where romance fades away into real life. I think we have reached that point, Bear and I. Why do I say that? Shall I make a list? We haven’t had sex in like, 4 days. We’re arguing a lot. Petty arguing. Nothing relationship-shattering, though, don’t worry. I found a steaming turd in the toilet this morning. I pick up socks and dirty pants on a daily basis. He naps all the time. I can’t remember the last time I put…

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Bear 

Ugly Green Monster

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It’s been a while since I’ve been an overly jealous person. I know I have very jealous (translation: crazy) tendencies in me somewhere because they all came out while I was married. I think they also came out quite a lot when I dated Jock. His ex was a constant problem and I was always jealous of her power to keep him dangling. I don’t think I saw it as jealousy at the time, but after reading some of those posts again recently, I can very clearly see the big…

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