LLETZ + 6 Months HPV+ 

LLETZ + 6 Months

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When I went for the smear, the nurse asked me what I had understood about my last lot of tests, examinations and procedures. My answer? Not very much. Everything I learned, I learned from Google and the women who had answered questions on my blog. At no point did anyone really explain to me what was going on. I wasn’t told what CIN meant. I definitely wasn’t told what CIN 3 meant. I read everything from “Stage 0 Cervical Cancer” to “It’s nothing to worry about”. She was shocked. Even…

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There Is You And One Other Girl

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So following on from my previous post, I decided to straight up ask The Gemini what the crack was between us. He sent me another message on the site even though we had been chatting on Whatsapp all day and I asked him straight: “Why are you still messaging me on POF?” “Haha I don’t know. I just saw your face and couldn’t resist” I didn’t really know what to say back so I didn’t bother. A few minutes later he sent me another message: “I’m getting lots of messages…

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I’m A Hypocrite

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There’s a guy. Let’s call him The Ginger (for obvious reasons I hope). He’s a left handed, Greek Orthodox (I don’t know what that means) father of two. He works from home sometimes in some kind of supervisory role and he is both funny and polite. I would almost go as far as to say he comes across quite the gentleman. He’s a Gemini just like me. In fact I want to change his name. I want to change his name from The Ginger to The Gemini. I don’t think…

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The Fireman Domestic Abuse 

That Time I Got Punched in the Face By a Fireman

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CONTENT WARNING: details of domestic violence.  Did I ever tell you about the time I got punched in the face by a fireman? No? Perhaps I should seeing as we’ve been talking a lot recently. And there was that whole fake date thing we had. Let me set the scene. We were about 18/19. It was just before I met The Hubby and my life changed forever. The Fireman and I had been broken up for about a year and so much stuff had happened, it just came to a head…

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I Went On A Date with The Fireman The Fireman 

The Fake Date

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So, yeah, I went on that date with The Fireman. Yep, that’s right. I went on a date with a man I broke up with over ten years ago. I’ll never learn from my mistakes will I? In my defence it wasn’t really a date. He’d told me he wanted to start a business and needed a helping hand with some of the website-y stuff. That’s my thing isn’t it? Words and websites? I agreed to meet him – he would pick me up at 4pm, take me for dinner…

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Dating 

I Got Trolled!

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So tonight, for the first time ever in my four or five years of on-off internet dating, I had my first real troll. And wow, what a fucking troll he was too. I had checked out his profile because I thought he was hot. Turns out, only his profile picture was hot. The rest of them – not so much. So far undeterred, I carried on to read his profile page. Well, I started to. When I realised I would need to scroll at least five times down the page…

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Send Help Dating 

The Business Proposal: Dissection of a Potential Date

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So I’ve been chatting to a couple of guys online because that’s what I do in-between men. I chat up new men on the internet. It’s a little something to pass the time more than anything else, something to give me that flirty banter. But at the same time, every now and again, it unearths a hidden gem – a man that probably doesn’t belong on POF. Well, almost doesn’t belong. Cue new man – 38 years old, distinguished, has his own business, car, no kids, etc. Oooh! Could this be…

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Someone New 

Is That All There Is?

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So, apparently I’m single now. There was no fight, no chat, no grovelling, no apologies, nothin’. Shittest breakup I’ve ever had. That probably tells me everything I need to know really, doesn’t it? He went to a makeup party with yet ANOTHER girl his mutual friends (and the child) had tried to set him up with a bunch of times before. Is there anyone in his circle of friends he doesn’t have “history” with? Jeez. I thought I was a slut. This guy is something else entirely. Anyway it was after…

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My Boyfriend is Having Dinner Tonight with a Home-Wrecking Whore Someone New 

My Boyfriend is Having Dinner Tonight with a Home-Wrecking Whore

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I’m so angry, I don’t even know what words I want to type out. I can’t make much sense of the humble-jumbled thoughts whizzing around my head. I want to act. I want to act angrily which is never good. I want to do crazy-girl things. I won’t of course. I’m too dignified these days for that; too grown up. So I shall type instead. I’ll let my fingers do the talking. Casually skimming through Facebook on this dreary Saturday afternoon and guess what I come across. Oh yes, yet…

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Here We Go Again Someone New 

Public Displays of Flirting

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Every time I decide to give Someone New the chance to be the boyfriend I think he could be, he does something so dumb, I can’t understand why he would do it. Just like today. A girl who he has a bit of history with sent him a Facebook message. On his wall, although it probably shoulda been an inbox message with the very blatant flirting that happened as a result of it. It started innocently enough – sorry I’ve not been in touch, I’m a bad friend, forgot to…

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