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The Smart & Safe Guide to Sending Nudes (22 Tips)

November 20, 2024December 19, 2024 notsosexinthecity

There comes a point in many a relationship where the heat turns up and, well, the chat gets a little flirty. They might start talking about sending nudes… but you’re not really sure what that means or what to do about it. Thankfully, ya girl (that’s me) is here to explain everything, including the law, how to send nudes as safely as possible, and what obliging that request really could mean for your future. Are you ready? Sitting comfortably? Let’s begin…

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Re-Virginity

September 23, 2024December 1, 2024 notsosexinthecity

After five years of very much unwanted celibacy, it almost feels like I’m re-losing my virginity whenever I ponder the prospect of having sex again. I’m going to call it my re-virginity. I mean, I know it’s not losing my virginity again, because I am the absolute opposite of a virgin, but the nerves, anxieties, questions, and anticipation are all the same. The thought of standing in front of another person and taking my clothes off, letting them see everything about me, fills me with a sense of panic. My…

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When I Was 20…

April 21, 2020November 24, 2024 notsosexinthecity

“Your 20-year-old pic is so cute,” I told him. “I have a pic of you from when you were 20, you know. I found it when I moved a little while back,” he replied. “You do? How? I don’t even have that many pics from when I was 20,” I laughed. “I have a few pics of you from back then, but I doubt many of them are social media-suitable?” he laughed, sending over the first one. It was my goth phase, and the time I made so much…

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Today I Miss …

April 17, 2020November 27, 2024 notsosexinthecity

It suddenly struck me today just how much I missed my vibrators. Well, one specifically: the Rampant Rabbit. I’ve talked about the toy a lot before, and I’ll probably talk about it a lot more in the future even though there are new toys to tell you about, but my Rampant Rabbit is the toy I’m missing the most right now. I’m missing it so fucking much. I’ve wanked a lot during lockdown, but they’ve been secret, silent, stolen wanks in the shower, or really quietly at my desk when…

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Hot Right Now [Previously Unseen]

April 10, 2020November 24, 2024 notsosexinthecity

Fun fact about this post: It’s been sat in my drafts for over two years. I didn’t know whether or not I wanted to publish something that featured a Class A drug so heavily and positively. But we’re all adults here, right? I did it, lived it, wrote about it … now I’m sharing it. Consider this your second content warning: this post goes into great detail about an NSFW night on MDMA (ecstasy), talking about it in a positive way. As a side note: I’ve been clean from all…

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You Can Only Have One Position…

March 30, 2020November 24, 2024 notsosexinthecity

You can only have sex in one position for the rest of your life: which is it and why? I’m answering a reader’s question… and gettin’ honest about missionary…

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Wandering Hands

March 28, 2020September 25, 2024 notsosexinthecity2 Comments

I have a question: If my boyfriend is that disinterested in sex that we’re not having any of it [again], how come I keep waking up in the middle of the night with his hands down my pants? Last night, for example. This morning, actually. 4:38 am, according to the clock. I found myself risen from my slumber, still in the dark, roused by something that was nice and annoying all at once. It took me a few moments to work out what it was: Bear’s hands. Bear’s hands rubbing…

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You’ve Missed Her

March 26, 2020November 24, 2024 notsosexinthecity

You kiss her like you mean it; like you’re hungry for her lips to press and caress and move against yours. Your hands can’t help but roam as you do, stroking up and down her arms at first, but they soon move – as though they have a life of their own – to trail a finger against her cheek, to grapple and grab and yank her hair, to lightly-but-firmly grasp around her neck … You’ve missed her. You want her to look at you in that way she always…

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Preferred Spot [Curious Cat]

January 16, 2020November 24, 2024 notsosexinthecity

“Where is your preferred spot to take your man’s cum?” — I’m answering this question in GREAT detail…

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Edged

January 16, 2020December 1, 2024 notsosexinthecity

I’m blaming today on you. You. Yes, you. You know who you are. Today is your fault. The reason I’m tapping up this post right now? You. You kept talking about being edged like it was this big thing that I was missing out on — and wasn’t I missing out on it? Not getting what I wanted has never been something I’ve been brilliant at dealing with, my impatience driving me to come even when I’m told not to, so I’ve never paid much attention to the idea of…