Category: Dating

The Ex-Factor

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If you’ve been following me on Twitter, you’ll know that Someone New, or SN, is back in the picture. It’s happened slowly and over time, innocent chat followed by cute kisses at the end of a wonderful coffee date, our sorry’s said and the past left behind us. But is it?  I haven’t had the best track record when it comes to ‘getting back with the ex’ as it were. In fact, every time I’ve attempted this before, it’s gone horribly wrong. Usually for me. But SN, he’s really trying.…

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But Does He Want Me Dating 

Hello Married High School Guy!

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Okay… I’ve been tweeting about this guy but now I feel he deserves a little post of his own. I’m pretty sure he’s flirting with me but he’s doing it in a really bad way. Let me start from the beginning. So… Old high school guy messages me on Insta. Definitely flirting. Definitely married too. We weren’t even friends at school? — NotSoSexintheCity (@notsosexintheci) February 4, 2016 He started following me a while back on Instagram. Every now and again, he drops in a cheeky like. I take a peek…

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I Want Me Some of That The Dom 

I’m No Void-Filler

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I had a little text exchange with The Dom yesterday morning and to be honest, I wasn’t going to write about it because he’s out of my life now. I’m grateful. I wasn’t yesterday when we had our text exchange and I was angry but now, after talking to some people and getting a different perspective about things, I’m glad I got out when I did. He told me I wasn’t disposable to him. After I explicitly told him weeks ago he WAS NOT to read my blog anymore and…

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I’m Making My Point Now

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I care a lot about people. All I want is for people to care about me in the same way and honestly, I don’t think that’s too much to ask for. Sometimes I care too much, I do too much. I go out of my way to make sure the people I care about are happy and comfortable even when sometimes they don’t really deserve it. And what do I get out of it? Very little is the answer. I throw money at people even when I don’t have it…

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I Want Me Some of That The Dom 

Ultimatums

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My life seems to be full of ultimatums right now. Ultimatums and uncertainty. I hate it. The Dom and I were fighting. If The Director is in my life, The Dom won’t be. He also seems to think I won’t be able to have a relationship with someone who DOESN’T know and read the blog. Of course he would say that… wouldn’t he? And what does that even mean? It really struck a chord with me and it sent my head into overdrive. And now I can’t stop thinking about it.…

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I Didn't Go Last Night The Director 

Head: Fucked

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I’ve figured out what I’m good at in life. Bad decisions. Bad decisions and sex. I think those are my two talents. Perhaps writing too? I made a whopper of a bad decision yesterday. After blowing The Director out like a good girl on Tuesday, Wednesday didn’t carry with it quite as much common sense. I agreed to meet him at 2pm for a ‘business meeting’. 2pm turned into 4pm. A business meeting turned into three bottles of wine. Final result… We finished half the work we said we were…

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Flatlined. Do Not Resuscitate The Director 

Recovery

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I’m such a dick. Like, legitimately, the biggest dick in the world. You’ll be happy to know I’ve come to my senses in a roundabout kinda way. The Director, seeing him, helping him with his business stuff… It’s all a very bad idea. All of it. Even the slightest hint of him. I have genuine feelings for this man. I haven’t heard from him at all today and it has affected my mood a lot. I’m a grump. Quiet. Withdrawn. Tired. Pissed off. All of the above. It’s all in…

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Flatlined. Do Not Resuscitate The Director 

Relapsing

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I have no longer ‘relapsed’. I am ‘relapsing’. I know I’m doing it. I also know it’s probably a very bad idea. I’m doing it anyway. The Director. He’s back, for a while it seems. He sent a text, then I sent a text… Why? Why did I do that? What the fuck is wrong with me? This is a guy who fucked with my emotions and apparently didn’t even realise. He fucked with my head, he took the piss out of me and he didn’t take me or my…

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Reconnecting Someone New 

Start Again: Page One

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It’s time for me to tell you about Someone New. He popped back up a while back and, as suggested, I stopped sending him messages back. I didn’t see the point. I’d known he wasn’t right for me for a long time when we were dating so getting into any kind of communication would just be pointless for us both. It would string him along and I’d end up having ‘fake feelings’. Because girls get those fuckers sometimes and they proper screw with your head. When I got the all-clear,…

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Stay Tuned... The Director 

Relapse

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I made a boo-boo. Well, not so much a boo-boo as a huge fucking error of judgement. I text The Director. After 16 days of zero communication, I was doing so well. And then came the relapse. Ooops. It came thinly veiled as a favour. He told he wanted a specific car while we were dating so I asked a man who would know about such things if he could keep an eye out. The man who knows about such things sent me a text which I should pass on…

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