Who Is This Bitch?
Every time I see a status or post from Someone New on Facebook, Instagram, etc., and go to ‘like’ it, someone else has always gotten there first. It’s a girl, obviously. I wouldn’t be writing an annoyed blog post about it if it were a dude, which is sexist but Someone New is straight-up straight. But, yes, there’s this girl and she’s liking and commenting on all of his stuff within minutes of it going live, which means she’s definitely got notifications for new posts going on. Either that or she spends her entire life on social media.
I let it go for a while. Who am I to get in the way of him and his female friends? I’ve only just realised that I want to give things a try with him anyway, so it’s hardly fair for me to start pissing all over friendships at this early stage, but she’s pissing me off. I decided to have a little stalk of her pages to see what she’s all about and it was as I was in full stalk mode that I realised something: she’s liked and/or commented on every single one of his posts for months. Like, obsessively. More so than anyone else. Bit weird.
Actually, that’s a lie. She hasn’t liked or commented on everything. There are a few statuses and photos here and there that she hasn’t interacted with … and you might guess why. Yes, that’s right, it’s because *I’m* in them. I’m either in the photos or I’m named/talked about/tagged in the statuses. And those are the ones that she hasn’t interacted with. Not a single one of them. But her name is there in all of likes/comments on the posts without me.
Bit fucking weird.
So, I asked Someone New about her.
She’s a friend. They were originally set up by a couple of their mutual friends because they’re both very much unlucky in love. Things didn’t kick off between them, he wasn’t as into her as she seemed to be into him, and nothing ever happened between them. They didn’t sleep together. They may or may not have kissed.
Then I learned that he’d walked this girl home recently. Like, since we’ve been together. The mutual friends that had set them up tried again … but “didn’t”. You know what those coupled-up. folk do: setting up friends ‘by accident’. Yeah, totally by accident. Anyway, she needed walking home after the evening drinks and chit-chat, so he walked her home – and that’s when he learned she still held a torch for him.
Then I learned that they’d met up a few times and had a walk/coffee/lunch, and that she was friends with his parents, and there were times that she would be at his parents’ house when he walked in occasionally.
None of this came out in one go. It came out in dribs and drabs, here n’ there, my questions answered with the most basic, vague answer and nothing more.
Excellent. This is making me feel fucking fantastic. (Not.)
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think he’s cheating on me, but there seems to be an awful lot about this girl that I don’t know about. And this is a girl that he’s been hanging out with a fair bit AND his friends have tried to set him up with, repeatedly. And, if I’m being honest, I think he’s keeping her around because his self-confidence is on the floor and she probably makes him feel great. We all know how distant I’ve been with him … and still am a bit, perhaps.
Maybe I’m just being paranoid and reading too much into it? Either way, I needed to talk about her. She’s on my radar now. I’ve got my eye on her. And him, for that matter.
I’ll guess we’ll see how much of a problem she becomes.
(It’s a good thing that I’m jealous though, right?!)
Most times, that person who likes everything you post is going to seem desperate and barely register. So I think its best to treat her like the poor girl that is all obsessed with your man, rather than as a threat. Chances are he is not that into her at all, else hed be the one all up in her stuff liking it, not vice versa.