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Google Really Is Your Friend

July 13, 2019September 13, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Sooooooooooo, I want to talk about something that I’m not really allowed to talk about in real life because it means I’d need to admit that I stalked my ex-boyfriend on Facebook and I try not to do that kind of thing these days. It’s not healthy. I’m trying to create a positive relationship with social media. Clearly, I’m not doing a very good job. Anyway, I was working away, furiously tapping at the laptop on some project I had absolutely no interest in, when I decided to spend…

The iPad Mini: A Warning

March 22, 2018September 13, 2019 notsosexinthecity

I don’t know if I ever told you the story of the iPad Mini. I might have done. It was during the One Ball era. I’m bringing it up now because I saw a Judge Rinder case — someone taking out a mobile phone contract for a friend who then didn’t pay for it, and I got irrationally angry as I watched it. It reminded me that One Ball never paid me for the iPad Mini that I got out on contract for him. In his defence, I was…

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Have You Got ID?

March 2, 2018September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Let me tell you something that’s really super-duper annoying: It’s getting 13,000 words into a 30,000-word project and then losing the entire lot because Pages on your iPad is a complete and utter cunt and never works quite how you want it to. Do you want to know something else that’s really super-duper annoying? When you hear of yet another man taking a whole bunch of fucking awesome women for a ride. It seems to happen a lot. It makes me grateful to have Bear. I’m not gloating or…

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The Importance of Love Letters

December 3, 2017September 14, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Every morning, when Bear leaves to do whatever he needs to do for the day, he leaves me a ‘love letter’. Usually scribbled on the back of a late-payment reminder or on an envelope for some bill he hasn’t even opened yet. Without fail, he does it. It’s become a ‘thing’ now. It’s one of those things that I don’t think I could live without now. Okay, so that’s probably a little dramatic, but you know what I mean — that would be the thing I missed so much…

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One Night With My Ex …

June 17, 2017September 26, 2019 notsosexinthecity

In case you hadn’t guessed from the title, I’ve been watching One Night With My Ex. In fact, I’m watching it right now. I’m cringing and laughing and wondering … could I sit through one night with my ex? Which ex would I choose? And what would I really want to know? Brown Eyes – I don’t really know if I have anything to say to that man. Or if he has anything to say to me that I would want to listen to? You can’t argue with stupid,…

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Stealthing: Stealth Has a Brand New Meaning

April 26, 2017October 2, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Every day is an education these days, apparently, and today I learned a brand new term in the world of dating and sex. Have you heard of stealthing? Don’t worry if you haven’t heard of it because I hadn’t either, but it’s time to sit up and pay attention. Take notice. Because if you don’t know what stealthing is, you can’t protect yourself against it. And trust me when I tell you that you definitely need to protect yourself against this one. Let me set the scene – you’re…

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Practice Makes Perfect (But Only If You Learn From Your Mistakes)

April 25, 2017October 10, 2019 notsosexinthecity

Do you ever look at men that you dated before and think to yourself, why? Like, honestly … why? Why, oh why? Okay, enough of the why’s now. But seriously though, why? What was going through my mind when I thought some of those dudes in my past were a good idea? Some of them weren’t bad looking at the time, obviously, and a couple have just gone a bit downhill with age. But some of them … Some of them never had any hope. I genuinely don’t understand the…

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Joint Facebook Accounts

April 23, 2017December 26, 2019 notsosexinthecity3 Comments

Joint Facebook accounts. Let’s just talk about those for a second, shall we? I seem to find that more and more couples are opting for a joint social media presence these days but I’m having a hard time coming up with reasons why someone would think this was a good idea. I can think of a hundred and one reasons why it would be a bad idea, though. Let’s start with some of those. There was that one couple I commented on, on Twitter a while back. From the Insta-rants,…

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What Should You Do When You Don’t Want to Have Sex with Your Boyfriend?

January 30, 2017October 22, 2019 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

*according to me. What happens when you desperately love the man you’re with, and usually, you’d want to rip his clothes off without even a nudge in that kinky little direction, but right now and for the last few weeks/months, you just haven’t been interested in sex at all? It’s a familiar scenario, right? We’ve all been there. We’ve all felt that. We’ve all brushed our significant other away, complaining of a non-existent headache, desperately wanting to be left alone. But why? And how long do you leave it before…

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This Is What Over-Thinking Looks Like

July 8, 2016 notsosexinthecity1 Comment

I’m such an over-thinker for someone who often doesn’t think about things at all. For those of you not following me on Twitter, yesterday I got myself a little tattoo. That’s not the important part of the story although right now (24 hours later), it’s stinging like a bitch. Self-inflicted, I’m not expecting sympathy, swiftly moving on before someone tells me how much I’m going to regret my tattoos when I’m 60. As if I’m going to be getting my body out when I’m 60 anyway. I don’t even wear…