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Talkin’ the Talk

August 5, 2013April 16, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, children, Commitment, dating, Ex-Factor, Ex-Purge, falling in love, Getting the Ick, love, Moving On, new love, Overthinking, Secret Relationship

Casually, out of nowhere, on our last date, Jock dropped something quite huge into the conversation. “I think I need to tell my ex that I’m with you.” Lolz, wot? We’ve known each other for eight weeks. That’s it. It feels like everything is now moving at warped speed. We’re already throwing the L-word around like it’s a game of ping pong, now we’re rushing into telling the ex. Why? Why’s he gotta tell her already? Why does he need to tell her at all? He continued … “Next weekend,…

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I Am Such a Fucking Idiot

August 1, 2013April 12, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, dating, Ex-Factor, falling in love, Getting the Ick, heartbreak, love, Moving On, new love, Overthinking, Reflection, Self-Sabotage3 Comments

So … on Thursday night, I went out and got drunk. D-r-u-n-k. Blind, stinkin’ drunk. Me and a couple of my work colleagues had been invited to a training evening, but the training evening was actually an evening in a not-so-local pub, with a free bar. As you can probably imagine, it turned into less of a work event and more of a complete disaster the more the night went on … and the more the beer flowed. I had a fantastic night, flirting a little too much with the…

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Will You Be My Girlfriend?

July 13, 2013March 19, 2020 notsosexinthecitycar sex, Commitment, experimenting, falling in love, Fingering, In Public, new love, orgasms, sex toys, Sexual Chemistry, Tease

Things have been mostly smooth-sailing for me. In fact, Jock and I just went on our sixth date and I’d quite like to talk about that if you don’t mind? “I won’t have time to go home from work and change, but if you can handle me smelly and slightly exhausted, I’d like to pick you up, grab some food, and have an evening picnic?” he said in his text to me, and I gleefully accepted his proposition. “You have options, though,” I told him. “I’m wearing the cutest dress…

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I’m Fucking Falling For You

July 11, 2013March 19, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Bad Dates, Bad Drunk Decisions, Body Image, dating, Ex-Factor, fail, falling in love, Fighting, Forgive, Forgive and Forget, Jealousy, Moving On, new love, period, periods, self esteem, Self-Sabotage, Weight2 Comments

Fuck me, I don’t even know where to start updating you with everything. I’m about a week behind in blog posts, so I’ll try to keep things nice and easy to read along with … but I have so much to tell you! “I’m picking you up after work. Wear the cowboy boots and that dress again, please,” Jock text me. It thrilled me that he’d told me what to wear. It’s a little bit of a kink of mine, I think; a man telling me what to wear, how…

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The Zoo

July 6, 2013March 18, 2020 notsosexinthecityCrushin’, dating, falling in love, Favourites, Moving On, new love, Zoo

I’m in very serious trouble. Like, super serious trouble. I’ve just spent another AMAZING 24 hours with the AMAZING Jock, and I can say one thing with absolute honesty: he rocks my fucking world. I definitely wasn’t this happy with One Ball at the beginning. I didn’t feel like this. He made me happy and stuff but this is something else. I’m in a constant state of giggly butterflies, wishing the hours away until I can see him next, literally running to my phone whenever it makes a vibrating noise…

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Farting, Fucking & Frivolity

January 18, 2013February 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityCommitment, falling in love, long distance relationship, love, new love, vasectomy

Heeeeeey, folks! I’m back! I’ve been away for a little while with some blog-related drama (WordPress deleted me and then brought me back to life), but I have so much to tell you. I have BUCKETLOADS of stuff to tell you. One Ball and I … we finally said the L-Word to each other. Yes, peeps, we are in love! It was Sunday the 13th of January, after five months of dating, just a casual afternoon of me doing some work stuff and him texting me from his military base,…

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NIGHT 3 (and 4): Stuffing, Sliding and Sleeping

January 9, 2013February 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityexperimenting, falling in love, long distance relationship, love, Lubricant, new love, oral sex, Pussyjob, Tease

“You’ll need to go gently with me tonight, I’m a little sore,” I told One Ball as we got into bed. It was his third night staying at mine, and we’d already had two pretty adventurous, energetic nights. In case you missed them – Night 1: Electro-Sex Night 2: Nine and a Half Weeks And then there we were: night three. “I’ll go slow and use lots of lubricant. Just tell me if it gets too much,” he replied, slowly shuffling down the bed and reaching up for my briefs.…

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Fuck me, I Love You

January 6, 2013February 5, 2020 notsosexinthecityfalling in love, love, new love

Fuck! I’ve been dying to update my blog for ages. I’m so sorry for the wait, people, but I’ve had company. (If you follow me on Twitter, you’ll know.) The lovely One Ball came to stay with me for four days, and he left a little over ten hours ago. As much as I’m enjoying the time to myself again, I sure am missing him already. But I know just what I can do to distract myself … I can tell you about what we got up to! Oh my…

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T-Minus 4 Sleeps

December 29, 2012February 3, 2020 notsosexinthecityfalling in love, long distance relationship, love, new love, The Ick

I’m seeing One Ball in T-minus 4 days. I’m excited, folks, but I’m also stressed. Do you want to know why? Because there is so much stuff to do and not enough time to do it all. Let me invite you into my pre-fuck ritual … I need to shave my legs. I actually prefer epilating but I need to do that a week before the ‘event’, and then again a couple of days after that to make sure that all of the hairs are gone, even the little ones.…

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L-Word Urges

December 15, 2012February 1, 2020 notsosexinthecityfalling in love, Firsts, love, new love4 Comments

I keep having these L-word urges, people. I’ve wanted to say the L-word to One Ball at every moment of every day, for the last few days. It’s literally all I can think about. *He’s* all I can think about. And … I think he might feel the same. I sure hope he does. We’ve had a few really good chats the past couple of days. Text chats, I mean. We send love heart emojis in our text messages, and just the other day, we were messing around when he…