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1 Sleep to Go. Where am I?

February 9, 2013February 25, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, fail, long distance relationship, love, self esteem, Soldiers

One Ball is turning up again tomorrow. I’m nowhere near as prepared and ready as I should be, and everything that I have tried to sort out has fallen apart. I’m starting to feel a little down, like life is deliberately trying to get me down. Or maybe I’m just being melodramatic? I went lingerie shopping so that I could treat One Ball to something new and cute, but I made the mistake of not trying on the bra before buying. Instead, I threw caution to the wind, bought the…

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10 Things I Hate About You

February 6, 2013February 23, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, experimenting, fail, long distance relationship, love, Soldiers

One Ball and I had a conversation that could have gone really badly. I watched 10 Things I Hate About You – which is a BRILLIANT film, by the way – and somehow, we ended up deciding to make a list of the 10 things we hated about each other. It was a dangerous conversation, to be honest, but honesty is the best policy, right? We promised to laugh it off, not be mean, and to learn and grow together afterwards, but it went just as uncomfortably as you might…

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The Riding Crop

February 5, 2013February 23, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnal, Blowjob, Cumshot, cunnilingus, experimenting, fail, fantasies, Firsts, long distance relationship, love, Lubricant, oral sex, orgasms, Pain/Pleasure, Soldiers

“Is that your boyfriend over there?” my work colleague asked me, pointing to the door. “Oh my fucking god, yes it is. Why’s he still dressed like that … ?” On the first night that One Ball was at mine, he decided that he would pick me up from work still wearing his military uniform. “I know you’re not done for another fifteen minutes, but take a look in that bag and give it some thought while I go and grab us a couple of coffees,” was all One…

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The Riding Crop, The Proposed Threesome and a Brown Derby

February 4, 2013February 23, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnal, Booty Call, Fighting, long distance relationship, love, Soldiers, threesome

One Ball has been and gone again. He’s gone back to his army base, a good two-hours drive away from where I live, and we’ve made no more plans to see each other for at least another four weeks. Four long and miserable weeks. I forgot just how much long-distance relationships sucked. As always, I slept perfectly for the entire time he was here. No nightmares, no random waking up in the middle of the night, just blissful rest and sleep. Well, it was almost blissful; there was one night…

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Meet Number 24: The Older Guy

January 31, 2013February 17, 2020 notsosexinthecityBooty Call, car sex, cheating, friends with benefits, long distance relationship, masturbation, Soldiers

As I typed his name into the Facebook search box, I knew it was a bad idea. But I did it anyway. Just like I clicked on his face when I found his profile knowing it was a bad idea, and sent him a message. “I was just talking about you the other day. Thought I’d have a little Facebook stalk to see if you were around – and here you are! How are you? It’s been a really long time. I hope you’re well!” I’m such a fucking moron.…

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My Mr. Grey is Back

January 27, 2013February 17, 2020 notsosexinthecityCommitment, friends with benefits, long distance relationship, love

“You never said you were in a relationship now. Miss hearing from you :(“ Well, My Mr. Grey found out that I was in a relationship. (I’m still with One Ball, not that I’ve spoken about him in a while.) I tried to skirt around the subject a bit, telling My Mr. Grey that I thought I’d mentioned it before in a conversation, but he didn’t believe me. We ended up having a rather heated conversation and now I feel like shit. “I knew it was all too good to…

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I Need a Soldier!

January 22, 2013February 15, 2020 notsosexinthecityBad Drunk Decisions, Betrayal, cheating, Lies, long distance relationship, Reflection, Soldiers

“I know some soldiers in here, where they at, where they at? They wanna take care of me, where they at?” I love that Destiny’s Child song. It’s funny how that came on today, of all days, to remind me of my man-in-uniform obsession … One Ball and I had a conversation this morning about his leaving the military life and rejoining civvie street. The redundancy list was out and his name was on it. Thankfully, he wanted to leave the army anyway, but that redundancy list can be a…

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Farting, Fucking & Frivolity

January 18, 2013February 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityCommitment, falling in love, long distance relationship, love, new love, vasectomy

Heeeeeey, folks! I’m back! I’ve been away for a little while with some blog-related drama (WordPress deleted me and then brought me back to life), but I have so much to tell you. I have BUCKETLOADS of stuff to tell you. One Ball and I … we finally said the L-Word to each other. Yes, peeps, we are in love! It was Sunday the 13th of January, after five months of dating, just a casual afternoon of me doing some work stuff and him texting me from his military base,…

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NIGHT 3 (and 4): Stuffing, Sliding and Sleeping

January 9, 2013February 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityexperimenting, falling in love, long distance relationship, love, Lubricant, new love, oral sex, Pussyjob, Tease

“You’ll need to go gently with me tonight, I’m a little sore,” I told One Ball as we got into bed. It was his third night staying at mine, and we’d already had two pretty adventurous, energetic nights. In case you missed them – Night 1: Electro-Sex Night 2: Nine and a Half Weeks And then there we were: night three. “I’ll go slow and use lots of lubricant. Just tell me if it gets too much,” he replied, slowly shuffling down the bed and reaching up for my briefs.…

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NIGHT 2: Nine and a Half Weeks

January 8, 2013February 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityexperimenting, fantasies, long distance relationship, Lubricant, movies, oral sex, sex toys

The thing about One Ball is that he’s naughty and nice, rolled into quite a good-looking package. He can transform from innocent, naive and big-eyed to red-hot, bitey and passionate in the swiftest of moments. One minute he’s cute and goofy and making me laugh, and the next … he’s definitely not making me laugh, put it that way. “What shall we do tonight?” he asked. “How about a movie and takeout?” I suggested. A few minutes of browsing through the DVDs in my cabinet later, we agreed upon Nine…