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All the Right Things

June 18, 2013March 14, 2020 notsosexinthecityBreakups, Crushin’, Dating Apps, Moving On, Plenty of Fish, Soldiers

I don’t have time for a relationship. I’m not over my ex yet. I literally broke up with a completely different ex less than a week ago. Those are all the reasons I should stop talking to the hunky Jock who’s been taking up all of my time. We haven’t met yet, but man have we talked. And talked. And talked. It’s like we can talk forever, about anything, without ever getting bored. You know what that means, don’t you? My head’s getting all carried away with itself. I can’t…

Dating One Ball

So…. Today was shit.

June 17, 2013March 14, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Breakups, Fighting, Getting the Ick, heartbreak, Long Distance Relationships, love, Moving On, single, Soldiers

I feel like I should explain my previous post; that letter to One Ball I wrote. I actually initially wrote it in anger and then edited so it was more explanatory than vengeful before I gave it to him … which was definitely a good idea. We did the whole breaking up thing a few days ago and it’s still all raw and weird. We’ve been texting a bit, mostly him asking why I refused to give things a go with him and me telling him – repeatedly – that…

Dating One Ball

Dear One Ball …

June 17, 2013March 13, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Breakups, Fighting, Getting the Ick, heartbreak, Long Distance Relationships, love, Moving On, single, Soldiers

Dear One Ball, There are a lot of reasons I broke up with you, and I know that you’re going to disagree with at least 90% of them. But you wanted a list so I’m giving it to you. Don’t say I never offered you closure. To start with, I’m terrified that you’ll read my blog … again. I haven’t written in it properly for months, and I think it’s because I’m worried that I’ll say too much, you’ll read it, and then we’ll fight because you’re upset. It feels…

Dating Jock One Ball

Out With the Old, In With the New?

June 15, 2013March 11, 2020 notsosexinthecityBreakups, Crushin’, Dating Apps, Moving On, Plenty of Fish, Soldiers

I did it. I broke up with One Ball. I broke up with him because I didn’t have time for a relationship, and definitely not the relationship we were trying to have. I’m trying to spin too many plates at once. It’s not him, it’s me. Yadda, yadda, yadda. So, I decided to remove myself from all dating applications and sites and NOT look for a man. I need to focus on myself for a while. Get my life back on track, then find time to insert a partner into…

Dating One Ball

Crushin’

May 19, 2013March 11, 2020 notsosexinthecityBetrayal, Breakups, cheating, Crushin’, Getting the Ick, long distance relationship, My Best Friend Fetish, Soldiers

It’s been an interesting weekend, peeps. The crush with One Ball’s best friend that I talked about in my previous post? Yep, it’s grown in intensity. I’ve started imagining his face when I’m fucking myself with a toy at night. Worse than that: I’ve started imagining his face when I’m fucking One Ball. That’s bad, right? Like … really, really bad. I’m not doing it deliberately. It’s happening by accident, and it’s taking everything in me not to call my boyfriend by his best friend’s name. But it seemed to…

Dating One Ball

Advice, Please?

May 15, 2013March 11, 2020 notsosexinthecityBetrayal, Breakups, Crushin’, fantasies, Getting the Ick, long distance relationship, My Best Friend Fetish, Soldiers3 Comments

Right, peeps, I need your help. I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don’t know what to do about One Ball and I. Should we break up? Should I just do it and be done with it? Or is he a good guy that deserves a bit more time? And before you answer that question, I have something to tell you that’ll complicate things even further … I’m starting to crush on his best friend. (As if the My Mr. Grey stuff wasn’t complication…

Dating Mental Health One Ball

Impending Boom

May 11, 2013March 11, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Body Image, Breakups, confidence, depression, Fighting, Getting the Ick, long distance relationship, self esteem, self-harm, Soldiers

Something’s wrong. I don’t know what it is, but something is definitely wrong. I feel out of sorts. Not quite right. Irritated and restless. It’s driving me potty. I’ve thought a lot about self-harming recently, but I’ve not actually done it. Not in a grab-the-razor-and-cut way, anyway. But a few mornings ago, when my hair wouldn’t go right, I scratched the tops of my arms so hard that I drew blood. I didn’t mean to, it’s just a … thing. Almost like I don’t know I’m doing it until after…

Dating My Mr. Grey One Ball

Paranoid Prick

April 30, 2013March 10, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Betrayal, Booty Call, Breakups, cheating, friends with benefits, Getting the Ick, long distance relationship, Secret Relationship, Sexual Chemistry, Soldiers

You want to know whether or not I fucked My Mr. Grey on his visit down to my end of the country, don’t you? Don’t worry, I’m not going to beat around the bush. I’ll get to the point: I didn’t do it. I didn’t fuck My Mr. Grey. And although it was the right decision – the moral one – I’m not happy about it at all. Nope. Not at all. One Ball is a good man. We’ve had our ups and downs, yes, but he’s been a very…

Dating My Mr. Grey One Ball

I Want to Fuck My Mr. Grey

April 23, 2013March 10, 2020 notsosexinthecityAnxiety, Betrayal, Booty Call, Breakups, cheating, friends with benefits, Getting the Ick, Lies, long distance relationship, Secret Relationship, Sexual Chemistry, Soldiers

I did a really stupid thing: I text My Mr. Grey. I don’t really know why I did it. I think I was just overthinking the shitty second week One Ball and I had together, overanalysing all the little flaws I can see starting to appear in our relationship. He’s quite immature and boyish at times, and he really can’t make a decision to save his life, and there are lots of other little things that are making me think perhaps he’s just not the right kind of guy for…

Big Love Dating

Dear Big Love,

February 9, 2013November 9, 2019 notsosexinthecityBreakups

Dear Big Love, It’s 1 am and I can’t sleep. I’ve really struggled to get over you. Even now, a year on, I don’t think I’ve managed it yet. You created a cavern in my heart that is so deep that even new love with another man – a good man – hasn’t filled it. I gave you everything. I even moved to the other side of the world for you. I did that because you promised me you’d make sure I got home okay if it all went wrong.…